We learned all of the really crucial things in grade school: the Golden Rule, sharing, and most importantly – manners. No one is a bigger proponent of instilling good behavior and values into men (well, into everyone really but let’s start with the guys) than yours truly. If you fail to see the value in brushing up your etiquette skills just for the sake of decorum, perhaps you’ll respond to this claim: Do it because it could get you laid.

That’s right, polite is sexy. Polished is down right hot. This stems from the idea that it’s such a rarity to find in men these days (well, north of the Mason-Dixon line at least). No matter what your motivation, a well-mannered man is a huge turn on for us. So if you want to up your stock, I suggest you add these moves to your repetoire.

Sure, opening doors for people and pulling out our chairs is lovely, but it’s also pretty standard. The man who gets my attention is the one who stands up when a woman approaches or excuses herself from the table. Any man who doesn’t rise to his feet for an introduction is also missing an opportunity to make us swoon. It’s a thoroughly thoughtful gesture.

Another adorable move? Offering your seat to someone on the subway or train. Whether it’s a pregnant woman, elderly person, child or just someone with a stroller, whenever I see a guy insist that someone take his spot, his sexiness factor goes through the roof.

Likewise when a man apologizes for using foul language or saying something crass in the presence of a woman, it shows that you regard females differently than everyone else, which is refreshing. I’m not suggesting that you watch your mouths all the time – I swear like a sailor, after all – but the simple gesture of saying, “Excuse me, I’m sorry” to us can be enough to score you a phone number or maybe more. If this sounds like a stretch, believe me it isn’t – I’ve seen it happen more than once.

And finally, an even lesser-used but off-the-charts chivalrous move is walking on the outside of a woman while on a road or sidewalk, thus shielding us from oncoming cars. No one’s saying you have to take a bullet for us or throw your body at all potential safety hazards (this is hardly the age of knights in shining armor anymore), but we like when a man makes us feel safe. Even if we say we don’t need it, we love feeling protected.

Have a signature move that always impresses? Or want to share an instance where one of these moves worked in your favor? Send it to us,, we’ll pass it along. Until then, mind your P’s and Q’s, boys. ETIQUETTE WINGMAN

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  1. I once dumped a guy (it was actually the final straw in a DOOMED relationship) after he didn’t say “thank you” to my sister for footing the bill at a lovely dinner. He had terrible manners– it wasn’t the first time they reared their ugly head, but it was destined to be the last. I was secretly very happy he gave me the opportunity to let that guillotine finally drop. :) I’m loving the website, Renata! Keep up the great work!

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